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发表时间:2016-04-02 19:38:55 2417 4 14

P:我还是个初中8年级的学生,从中国移民到海外。父母感情很不好,常常为了钱的事情吵架。而我总是夹在中间,很难受。海外的世界很陌生,很舍不得之前教的那些好朋友。压力很大,在加上长的不太好看,所以经常会有人来说我是丑八怪什么的。这样心里很不舒服,不知道该怎么办。人际关系很差,没人陪我。经常觉得寂寞,无聊。晚上会说梦话,奇奇怪怪的梦话。明明我没做这个梦,但是却会说这种很奇怪的话。不知道怎么处理,怎么舒解压力。

T:我能体会你的感受,在一个陌生的环境里,在一个缺少关爱和友爱的空间里的那种无奈和孤寂,可能很多和你有同样处境的人都会和你有一样的感受,有的人可能做的还不如你,你还没有失眠,而只是说说梦话,说明你还是非常坚强的,我爱到你身体潜在的能量和希望,我觉得你是一个很可爱和美丽的女孩,你的美丽在于你的真诚和善良,一个人的美丽,不仅仅是五官的美丽,而更多的是在于内在的和人性的美丽,那种才是真正的和永久的美,比如一个语言很脏、行为很坏的人,她既然长得再美丽,你也不会觉察和感受她的美丽,她外表的美丽可能更会反衬出她的可恶和可恨,另外随着年龄的增长,长外表的美丽也会消失,只有内在的美丽才是我们最欣赏的和最渴望的,可能因为你的年龄还小,也是因为你现在正处在青春期,所以你格外地观注你的外表,对我说的这种感受体会的不是很深,这也是很正常的。当别人再说你丑八怪,其实那人就是一个真正丑八怪,你比美丽一百倍,而且你更必要去为那种人生气,他的行为一定可能会受到惩罚,象你可能不再理他,他失去了一个朋友,如果是他说一个男生,很可能会被打,所以你没必要生气,而应该可怜这种人,可能心里会有不舒服的感觉,那是正常的,不要太在意。

你说梦话,其实就是白天压力得不到渲泄,就会在梦里释放,这其实是好事,如果你白天释放不出来,晚上还释放不出来,那就坏了,这说明你现在身体的机能都很正常,也说明你具备自我调节的潜能。你应该去享受这种释放的感觉,不管是美梦还是噩梦其实都很有意思,你不防试着把他们记录下来,没准将来可以出了童话集呢。

其实每个人压力既来自于外在,也来自于内在;可能面对同样的处境有的人就不会感到有太大的压力呢,是吧。其实压力把双刃剑,如果完全没有压力也是不行的,但压力太大了当然也不行,一个人不能改变所处的环境,包括国家和家庭,但可能改变自己去适应去调整,这时压力可能就会变成动力,把这种压力不要让它对内,天天伤害自己,而要让它去对外去变成学习的动力、享受活动的动力、与同学交往的勇气、与父母沟通的信心等等,我相信你先试着去做,最终你能做到,而且我可以去帮助你,使你逐渐壮大,开发出你所有的潜能,那时的你就都会做到了。但所有这些都需要你能首先勇敢地面对自我。

与父母的关系:你要相信父母都是爱你的,他们的感情你所不能控制的,既然他们因感情不合而分手,那也是他们做出的决定,你应该尊重他们的选择。你如果可能可以偿试着帮他们沟通,在妈妈面前多说说爸爸的好处,在爸爸面前多说说妈妈的优点,你要经常笑着面对他们,用的笑容去影响他们,你如果尽力即使他们分开,你也不会留下遗憾;另外有时候吵架也不都是想的那样,其实有时候夫妻的吵架也是婚姻的一个组成部分,吵架也同样会一种爱的沟通的表现,可能那就他们的一种互动方式呢,你要学会理解他们,也许那也是他们彼此的一种渲泄压力的方法呢。说到这,当你有压力的时候也不要总是强忍着,觉得难过的时候就可以尽情的哭,哭他个痛快;也可以把难过的,没人追诉的东西写做日记本上,最后撕掉它或扔掉它,烦脑也就随之也扔掉了;要多给自己积极的暗示,说自己是最棒的,最漂亮的,其实自信才是真正的美;最好培养一种兴趣爱好,在其中你也可以舒缓压力,比如打网球、游泳,在其中你还能找到志趣相同的朋友;有烦脑的时候可以试着与父母沟通,相信他们会理解你的,即使不相信,你也把想说的都说出来了,未必不是一样好事。

对于交友:你不要总是等着别人来找你做朋友,你试着去找和你有兴趣相同、性格相似、经历相近的人先和她接触,慢慢成为朋友,最终成为可以互相帮助、倾诉的知心朋友,但一定不要急,而且你要主动,你对别人好,你又不要求他的回报的话,他一定能感受到,并且会成为你的朋友的。

另外在面对压力的时候要学会放松,做多次的深呼吸。尽力的吸气,使小腹鼓起,停住三秒后,再慢慢用嘴呼出,直到腹部变瘪,连续做几次。如果有时候每天练习做十分钟,会对你的自己调节能力有所提高的。

祝你天天开心、快乐!

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