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发表时间:2015-07-03 13:09:38 379 0 0

 

前几天我在微信公号上推送了一篇和分手有关的文章,里面提到了《春光乍泄》的故事,第二天早晨收到读者留言:“晚睡姐姐,为啥您在歌颂爱情时总是举同性恋的例子?感觉好别扭。难道没有正常的爱情可以说了吗?”

  我回想了一下,没觉得自己总是举同性恋的例子,我也从不单纯歌颂同性恋的爱情,我只是没有像有些人那样,故意去避讳而已。在我的眼中,只有爱情,只要是美好的爱情,都值得歌颂,我从未刻意的区分异性恋与同性恋。

  其实我能理解这位读者的想法,我也曾经有过这个阶段,很不能接受同性恋。包括以前看过的心理学书,都将同性恋视为一种性心理障碍和行为偏差,需要接受专业治疗进行校正。有这种看法的人不在少数,有一次在北京和一位知名电视剧制作人吃饭,他直言不讳说自己根本接受不了同性恋,即使在一个桌子上吃饭都会觉得不舒服。我说你们圈子中这种情况不是很多吗,他说我知道,所以我做的电视剧都不会找这种人,即使他是个好演员。

  那时候,我们都一样,将同性恋看作是异类,充满好奇、嫌恶和怜悯,总觉得他们生活在一个非常难以想象的世界,在那个世界中,他们什么都与我们不同。

  即使我是张国荣的粉丝,很多年前,当有人告诉我他爱的是男人,“张国荣是同性恋”这几个词从朋友的口中轻描淡写地说出来,我却觉得好似五雷轰顶。我是那种不介意自己的偶像结婚的粉丝,反正他结婚不结婚我都没有机会,可性向的问题,在那个时代更像是一种污迹,我不希望我喜欢的人沾染上。

  但我真的就是从张国荣身上,开始尝试去了解这另一个世界的爱情。

  这并不难做到。对于任何人来说都是这样,你喜欢的人,你欣赏和敬重的人,你就会信赖他的判断力。张国荣是美的、善的、纯真的,有强烈的自我意识,那么他喜欢什么人,一定有他的道理。

  这些年来,陆陆续续知道了很多他和唐先生的故事,我和他们的朋友一样,得到了同样的结论:他们真是一对璧人,“不止是说外貌,还有内心,都是没架子的人。”

  日本的志摩千岁女士说,“唐生其实是很随和的一个人,既不会对对方特别客气,也不会让对方感到拘谨。凡是有他在的地方,总会让人有一种温暖的感觉,是能营造出一种神奇氛围的男人。”泰戈尔有一句诗:“鞘安于钝,以护利剑。”正是唐先生的沉稳安静,不急不躁,以鞘的宽厚,包容了张国荣因为童年缺爱而倔强孤独的性格,安放了他锋利灿烂的人生。

  这段长达十几年的相守使张国荣变得成熟,一个曾经悲观失意的少年,在爱情中逐渐弥补了所有的缺憾。这一路走来,他之所以从一个叫“Bobby”的男孩变成性感的“Leslie”,再变成所有香港人口中的“哥哥”,这不是他一个人能够创造的奇迹,有很多人都为这颗最亮的星奉献过光和热,最为难以忽视的,就是这个姓唐的男人。他和他的爱情安抚了张国荣曾经孤单寂寞的心,让他在事业的长途上一路奔走而不觉累。他塑造了他,成就了他,直到最后,两个人再也分不开。

  就像那首《我侬词》:“把一块泥,捻一个你,塑一个我。将咱两个,一齐打破,用水调和。再捻一个你,再塑一个我。我泥中有你,你泥中有我。”到底是这样的你,塑出那样的我,还是那样的你,渗透进这样的我,早就已经无法分清了。

  这才是最值得羡慕的爱情,我在他们身上看到了爱情最好的模样,哪里还需要一定去强调性别呢?

  如果说真正的与众不同之处,那可能就是他们爱得比绝大部分人都更忠诚和执着吧。他们对爱的体会从来都没有因为是两个男人而变得肤浅。2002年张国荣在香港中文大学讲座的时候,他说:“一个未曾真正恋爱过的人,在感情上还是一个小孩,他不会知道爱情会令人何等的刻骨铭心,也不会明白恋爱里的人有时现那种既复杂又矛盾的心情。”这样的认识,绝对是真正的在爱情中经历过,才能得到。

  很高兴从这以后我变得不再那么狭隘。这不是单纯对于偶像的爱屋及乌,而是我打开了通向另外一个世界的窗口。

  14年前,蔡康永在李敖的逼问下承认自己的同性恋身份,这份勇敢让他成为娱乐圈的标靶,那些有同样身份的艺人称他为“出柜导师”,“娱乐圈的人出柜前都先来问我”,也让他承受了极大的压力,变得孤独。前几天他在节目录制现场当场落泪,说出“我们并不是妖怪,可以很好的活在这里”这样叫人难过的话。

  但除去这一点,蔡康永在爱情中是一个幸福的人。他和男友George1994年相恋,第二年去日本旅游遇到大地震,两人相依为命后被救难队救出,于是在京都的大雪中约定“我们要永远在一起”。现在两个人相恋已经超过20年,比很多男女还要爱得久爱得深。

  蔡康永回应那些质疑声音说:“生活非常麻烦,你我各有辛酸,何苦相互为难?”

  是的,就算是同性恋又怎么样,何谓正常,何谓不正常?他们都是真实存在的人。他们和我们一样,来到人世,都在尽可能地体会生命的滋味,尽可能地去争取幸福,只是尽可能,没有真正的圆满和真正的成功。如果他们未曾伤害别人,也没有欺骗别人,有什么资格不让他们安静地生活在自己的角落中呢。

  前几天朋友的朋友因为癌症去世,生前他在性向问题上一直备受猜疑,但他坚持抵住了众人的非议,坚持不结婚,孤零零的走了,留下一个年迈的母亲。

  生、老、病、死,这些人生难以回避的命运,得不到、已失去,这些做人至大的烦恼,我们和他们,都在同样的经历着,谁都不能幸免。

  高晓松发声力挺蔡康永,“我们的社会已经进化到捍卫猫狗权益,人的爱与自由更应该被大声诉求,勇敢捍卫!”这才是更文明的态度——爱情各有辛酸,何苦互相为难。包括对姐弟恋,对老少配,对离异,种种爱情形态,都应该给予尊重。我们所追求的,最希望得到的,最希望得到的,不就是幸福吗?既然已经得到了,又何必问太多问题。那些以为自己的选择才是唯一正确,并借此去歧视别人的人,其实已经走入了一个更加巨大的偏见中,而不自知。

  6月26日上午,美国最高法院以5:4的投票结果裁定,同性婚姻合乎宪法。这一裁决结果意味着同性婚姻在全美50个州全部合法,美国也因此成为全球第21个在全境承认同性婚姻的国家。世界已经开始为这部分人松动它的冷面,更大的解放还会接踵而来。

  可以不祝福,但不要去诋毁。这个世界上有太多我们不明白不了解的情感,就像我们人类目前的探索还无法了解整个宇宙,但谁都不应该去否认宇宙的浩瀚和深邃。

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