给力心理
各位吧友，前一阵我偶然发现老婆在和我谈恋爱期间，出轨另一个男人，长达2年时间，他们的事情我结婚后才知道。各位给个意见，我该怎么办？我一直想翻篇，但是很难。他们背着我谈的两年时间里，做了一切该做的，我发现后，老婆也向我坦白了当时的事情，请各位给些中肯的意见。
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网友
沈阳司飘心理咨询室
2024-05-19 23:21:09
咨询师许倩倩
您好
2021-06-08 20:08:18
非常纠结[抓狂]
咨询师许倩倩
那个他当时是单身还是已婚呢？
2021-06-08 20:09:23
网友风轻云淡
私聊我
2021-06-08 20:09:35
网友独来独往
那你想怎么解决
2021-06-08 20:09:52
网友暖宝宝
重点是现在是什么状态
2021-06-08 20:10:04
网友独来独往
主要还是要看你
2021-06-08 20:10:12
那个男的单身，我和老婆属于恋爱关系，当时已经谈了2年了。
@独来独往不知道，我还是对老婆有很深的感情。但是想到他俩在一起的日子，我就难受。
网友郑老师
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主要还是要看现在你们的感情怎么样，如果很和谐，就不要总纠结已经过去的事情了，如果并不和谐，就果断分开吧
2021-06-08 20:12:41
@暖宝宝他们很久没有联系了，现在也没有联系。但是他俩的事情我全知道，所以画面感很强。
网友心灵港湾
你结婚前是处男吗？想不痛苦吗？
2021-06-08 20:14:58
@郑老师现在感情还可以，主要是有小孩。我老婆劈腿这两年，他俩感情更好，我老婆跟我坦白时，告诉我他们缘分不够，这一点我极难接受。
网友独来独往
能私聊吗
2021-06-08 20:16:40
我老婆是我初恋，这么多年全身心，当初被绿主要是我事业心太重，细节确实做的不好。但是现在我心里太难受。
我这种情况应该不多见[流泪][流泪]
网友梦回心境
看你觉得这个婚姻值不值得你留恋
2021-06-08 20:23:34
网友梦回心境
你们有小孩吗
2021-06-08 20:23:43
网友枉凝眉
占有欲作祟
2021-06-08 20:24:57
@梦回心境有小孩，这也是我牵挂的。
咨询师许倩倩
其实这种情况，也可以是另外一种解读。
2021-06-08 20:25:24
咨询师张庆仪
您好
2021-06-08 20:30:24
咨询师张庆仪
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就像老婆说的他们缘分不够，有了这段经历，她会更加珍惜你们的感情。
2021-06-08 20:31:26
网友光明疗愈
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你爱她吗？我觉得，如果一个男人真的爱她，说真的真的可能没下限了
2021-06-08 20:34:34
网友光明疗愈
愿意的话我们可以聊聊
2021-06-08 20:34:41
倾听者喜雀
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你们现在多大了，婚后多久了？有孩子了吗，多大了？告诉我下，然后我告诉你
2021-06-08 20:37:24
网友心途导师
暂不支持播放语音
2021-06-08 20:38:25
咨询师许令智
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你说你“一直想翻篇，但是很难”，那么，这个事从你发现，至今，有多长时间了？
2021-06-08 20:43:06
网友龙凤
你好
2021-06-08 20:47:07
@许令智我发现他俩的事情有半年了，老婆也承认
网友
跟我一样
2021-06-08 20:53:06
咨询师王金波
您好
2021-06-08 20:53:11
网友张不二【情感事业】
暂不支持播放语音
2021-06-08 20:54:15
咨询师罗怡萱
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你好，可以跟老师聊聊，专业帮你分析，建议，指导[玫瑰]
2021-06-08 20:56:41
倾听者情绪捕手
分析一下就知道了
2021-06-08 20:58:56
咨询师周文慧
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你需要打开心结，看得出你不想离婚，在尽量找办法说服自己，但是又不知道怎么做，有些事需要私聊，可以下单咨询。
2021-06-08 20:59:12
倾听者红叶情感指导
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谈恋爱期间劈腿两个男人，确实是她做的不地道，但是最终她选择了你，应该珍惜，她和你缘分挺深的，我们可以具体聊聊的，我愿意倾听你的委屈帮助你走出阴霾
2021-06-08 21:04:32
倾听者倾听时刻
看你们感情如何
2021-06-08 21:08:29
倾听者欧阳
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你的问题还不算严重，只是你心里的坎很难迈过去，如果可以的话，你可以私聊我，我帮你迈出这个坎
2021-06-08 21:10:49
倾听者笑儿老师
过去的那个点对现在有何意义？
2021-06-08 21:13:19
网友白素素
出轨了还不离吗？
2021-06-08 21:24:46
网友宇桐
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过错方，孩子会判给你，而且财产分割也会偏向你的
2021-06-08 21:27:40
咨询师徐海燕
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可以把你的想法和感受跟你老婆说出来～让对方知道和看到你的委屈～其他的放一放～关注自己最想要的方式去寻求
2021-06-08 21:31:41
倾听者黄老师
♂您好
2021-06-08 21:32:32
倾听者黄老师
可以聊聊吗
2021-06-08 21:32:35
倾听者黄老师
私聊老师
2021-06-08 21:32:38
倾听者大爱心理
想知道两年的时间中你俩关系确定了吗？
2021-06-08 21:40:06
@大爱心理我俩谈了两年了，她才背地里劈腿的
倾听者简爱情感
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理解你现在纠结痛苦的心情和感受。任凭谁遇到这样的事情都会如同是当头棒喝，不知所措，痛苦不堪的。但是事情的发展都是会有蛛丝马迹的，你愿意和老师具体聊聊你的情况吗？帮助你合理的分析和建议，希望可以协助你度过这段比较艰难的时光。
2021-06-08 21:45:16
倾听者大爱心理
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如果前面不是很确定，可以放下不用太纠结。如果在关系确定后发生那样的事是会让人难受的。但无论如何那是婚前的事情。。和婚后还是有本质区别的，你可以降低对事情的负面认知。人都会犯错，只要婚后希望你俩心还在一起，就用过分纠结。
2021-06-08 21:49:11
倾听者大爱心理
不用
2021-06-08 21:51:00
倾听者丹丹老师
您好
2021-06-08 21:57:29
倾听者大爱心理
0
你好，如果还有啥放不下的。这里可以语音给你分析疏导。
2021-06-08 22:01:23
咨询师席小华
你好
2021-06-08 22:05:53
倾听者简爱情感
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看得出来你是一个很重感情的一个人。综合各个方面考虑吧！我想，你可能心里面也有自己的答案。
2021-06-08 22:08:16
咨询师李锦云
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看得出双方其实都很重视这段婚姻和情感，爱人出轨往往不是对对方有感情而是因为在婚内你对他重视的不够，或者说他对自己不够满意的，我婚恋情感方面比较擅长，可以和我做这方面的咨询点击我头像预约
2021-06-08 22:09:42
网友余谨诺
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2021-06-08 22:17:00
网友风吹花儿开
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这样的事放在谁身上也不容易翻篇，但冷静想想，还得面对现实，毕竟有孩子了，毕竟你还爱她，毕竟她最后选择了你，毕竟她向你坦白了。离婚对家庭的每个人影响太大了，尤其对孩子。这些道理我们都懂，但做起来确实难，需要时间慢慢消化。珍重。珍重。
2021-06-08 22:39:05
倾听者范老师
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这个事情过去很久了，你对此还有介意，你要的感情似乎是完美的，你们认识在她们认识的之前还是之后？或许你是在他之后出现，有一句话说如果同时爱着俩个人，那么要选择第二个，因为第二个是你最爱的人。
2021-06-08 22:39:16
咨询师王 宇
你好
2021-06-08 23:17:27
倾听者心语❤️
你好
2021-06-09 00:17:59
倾听者吴凤娇
你好！不知道你更在乎的是什么？
2021-06-09 03:58:27
网友
分手
2021-06-09 08:10:44
网友净儿
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人经常都是拿着过去的刀，捅着今天的自己。难道现在感情好彼此双爱还要苦苦地为一个已经过去了的人和事在伤害自己和伤害对方吗？清理过去吧，活在当下。
2021-06-09 14:51:00
倾听者倾听时刻
你好
2021-06-10 16:25:59
倾听者理心老师
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这是你们婚姻共同要面对的问题，她出轨是她不自律，但也借着这个机会看看，她对你有什么具体的不满？俩人好好谈谈，相信你和她都是有委屈的，有未被满足的期待的，电话理心老师，帮你慢慢梳理
2021-06-21 11:27:54
网友
送了一个拥抱
2021-10-19 21:24:08
倾听者妙真老师
妙真老师送了一个拥抱
2022-01-05 17:30:04
网友怎么死不痛苦
怎么死不痛苦送了一个拥抱
2022-02-15 02:34:02
